He Doesn’t Love Me Anymore
Found yourself thinking, “I guess he doesn’t love me anymore…”? This is an awful feeling, and really does a number on your personal morale. Just imagine – after everything you’ve been through together, all the memories you’ve made, and the years you’ve shared he just doesn’t love you anymore.
It’s like a balloon popping right in front your face. There’s nothing you could do to expect why he doesn’t love you anymore. And worse, once it’s gone, you can’t get it back.
In this instance, your best option is to learn to recognize the signs that his love for you is fading, and take action before it’s too late.
4 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
He Doesn’t Want to Spend Time With You
A healthy relationship is one where both partners are excited to spend time together.
If you notice your partner finding a bunch of little ways to avoid you, it might be a sign that his love for you is waning.
At the beginning of your relationship, you couldn’t wait until the next time you saw each other! But now, he seems to be “over it”, even though you’re still very into it.
If you’re worried he doesn’t love you because he doesn’t want to spend time with you, there’s a few questions we should ask:
- What are your schedules like? Is he actually avoiding you, or do you just have hectic schedules and finding quality time is difficult?
- Are you unintentionally pushing him away so that he doesn’t want to spend time with you?….
- Are you overly critical of him?
- Do you willingly participate in activities that he enjoys?
- Do you provide for his emotional needs?
If not, then consider working on those areas and see what changes. You might be pleasantly surprised.
He Doesn’t Talk with You About What’s Going On in His Life
A lot of women complain about their men being closed off and shut down from them.
You might justify his behavior by thinking, “oh he’s just the quiet type” – but if your man doesn’t want to open up to you about what’s going on in his professional life, or with his family, and friends, and hobbies, then you might have a big problem.
There’s only one real reason why a man wouldn’t share his thoughts and feelings with him:
It’s because of how you treat him.
People think men & women are so different, but we all pretty much want the same things.
Your man wants you to listen, pay attention, suspend your judgement, and act like you care about what he has to say.
Ladies, I know those are all the things you want from your man.
But ask yourself this, do you return the favor? Do you treat him, or listen to him the way you would want to be listened to?
When he gets home from work, do you greet him by genuinely seeking connection….or do you immediately give him a list of things to do and tell him how hectic your day was?
If you want him to open up to you, you have to be open to listening to him.
He Puts You Down
Someone who loves you will also respect you, and someone who respects you won’t make you feel bad about yourself.
If your partner is repeatedly and intentionally saying things to hurt you, there’s definitely something up in the relationship.
An uptick in animosity like this can be difficult to handle – it’s normal for your feelings to get hurt, and maybe for you to fire back and defend yourself.
But, it’s important to handle these types of situations with careful communication.
I’m not going to get into how to communicate effectively during this video – I’ll leave that for another time.
But I will say this: if your spouse or partner is putting you down, there’s one thing you can do to combat that quickly.
People often lash out when they’re hurt. If he’s saying things that are hurtful to you, and you feel like he hates you, it might be because he’s hurting.
Showing empathy, and helping him figure out what’s going on is much more productive than just hurting him back.
He’s Disinterested in Your Future Together
A relationship that lasts is a relationship that looks to the future….
If your man isn’t looking into the future with you, it could mean that he’s looking for a way out.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – when you love someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible, even if it’s in the future.
If every time you mention future plans (be it having kids, vacations together, buying a house, retirement, etc), and your partner skirts around the topic, I can pretty much guarantee there’s something going on here.
He’s doubting the future with you.
That could be because of him, because of you, or both.
It could be maybe he’s not sure what he wants the rest of his life to look like. You might be a part of his future; you might not – he’s confused and unsure.
It could be because there’s been recurring problems in your relationship and he’s unsure if it’s a good decision to continue the relationship.
And maybe it’s some combination of both.
In any case, these issues warrant a discussion.
You want to have a talk with him about it, and decide what you want your future to look like TOGETHER.